Ever since the early 2000's people have told me, and countless other of my friends, "You have to be content being single in order for God to send you someone." Yesterday, however, was my last straw. While peeling potatoes with me, a very awesome Christian friend of mine counseled me with, what has almost become part of Christian doctrine: "You have to be content..." Although these many friends in the past have meant well, I beg to differ with what they believe to be a "now very obvious" and true philosophy. If being content in singlehood is the key to finding Mr./Mrs. Right, then why ... :
1) ... after many periods of total singlehood contentment, have we never found anyone to fall in love with?
2) ... for this to happen, would God require only that we be content in this part of our life?
3) ... are many perfect Christian relationships born out of two people not content being single...and far, far from perfect? (I know some do happen that way, but not all ...)
4) ... does this sound just like advice Job got from his friends? "Obviously you're sinning if ...." Let's just learn the lesson from Job.
5) ... HELLO! (and my biggest point of all), IS THERE NO BIBLICAL SUPPORT (that I have ever heard of) FOR THIS BELIEF??
Therefore, my belief is that that belief is a bunch of junk (to put it mildly) and needs to stop being touted as some mature Christian philosophy. Thank you!
If you have any true, sage, and Biblical advice on this subject, you can let me know. Until then, I plan to continue growing in my relationship with Christ, becoming more content in each area of my life, but all the time realizing not to play it as some magical key to finding a guy.
P.S.
As I said, these are dear people who suggested this thought, but I just don't want others to be misled, as it can be hindering.
